Opposites attract series: You don't need a holiday to show affection

Roses are red, violets are blue, Valentine’s Day is a Hallmark Holiday and that’s the truth; it doesn’t rhyme, but it gets the point across.


While most people who celebrate Valentine’s Day fill their day with bouquets of flowers, chocolate and fancy dinner dates, I personally have never made the effort in providing or asking for that. Let me clarify, I don’t hate Valentines Day, love or even relationships, I simply just don’t see the point in participating in this ‘holiday.’


Personally, I never made a big deal out of Valentine’s Day and I probably never will. I may sound bitter, but I promise, this is just another day on the calendar.


I understand most people see it as a day to celebrate romance with their partners or maybe show their friends a little extra love, but I see too many negative connotations with Valentine’s Day.


To me, those actions don’t need one singled out day. I think Valentine’s Day puts too much pressure on couples to ‘do the right thing.’ One man might get his girlfriend an engagement ring, but his friend gets his girlfriend a promise ring.


In reality, it’s not a big deal; each of their relationships might be at different milestones. This ‘holiday’ brings a weird competition to light despite each woman hopefully feeling happy with their gift and the man feeling confident in their choice, the possibility to compare is on the table.


Similarly, couples in general may not know what to gift each other other than chocolate, flowers or jewelry. While those gifts are nice, it’s not an end all be all if you don’t give or receive one.


Small, sweet gestures like flowers or a necklace are more meaningful to me when not everyone around me is also receiving them because of the stigma of Valentine’s Day.


With the stigma of Valentine’s Day comes sadness to those who don’t have a Valentine. I’ve seen people put too much pressure on themselves for being single and that can have long term negative effects on your confidence.


PSA: you don’t need to be in a relationship to love yourself. 


While you may not be getting a heart shaped box, that doesn’t mean that on Feb. 25 or even June 10 you can’t go get special chocolate from Fannie May for just yourself.


I know a decent amount of people love receiving and giving gifts on Valentine’s Day which is understable; I’m a big fan of letting people enjoy the things that they like, especially when it doesn’t affect me personally, but at the same time, who wants to go sit and have a romantic dinner in an over crowded restaurant? Who likes racked up prices on hotels, gas, candies and flowers?


Whether or not you and your significant other get each other a box of chocolates, I hope you enjoy Valentine’s Day. While I won’t be expecting anything from my boyfriend, it’s another day to be together and that’s worth a little celebration in itself.


Just remember, you don’t need to overspend on that giant teddy bear to show someone you love them.


The views expressed are those of the writer and not necessarily those of The Torch.

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